God Almighty gives fullness to human life through marriage. A new family is formed in the legal union of two unknown men and women. The key to happiness in married life is in the hands of the wife. If every wife follows the rules of Islam and obeys her husband, the flower of happiness will bloom in the world. Earth is a piece of heaven. But if the words are ungrateful and cursing, then all the trouble happens. The framework of the house changes up to the event of separation. In the light of Qur’an and Sunnah, a few things are mentioned about what women should do.
Focus on worship
A woman has to be very busy in family work. Cooking, child rearing, all family members have to take care of the service. Finding time for worship despite being busy is a characteristic of a good wife. Because it is through good deeds that you will get the honor of the world and the hereafter. The Qur’an says, “Whoever does good deeds in the state of faith, whether male or female, I will surely grant him a peaceful life and give him the best reward for his deeds in the Hereafter” (Surah Nahl: 97).
It is easy for women to go to paradise. There are only four things to do: One. Pray five times. Two. Ramadan fasting. Three. Protecting the pubic area. Four. Obedience to husband. In return for these four deeds, women can enter Paradise through any gate of Paradise (Ibn Hibban: 416).
Obedience to husband
The main virtue of a good wife is obedience to her husband. Because even though the family begins with the combination of husband and wife, the man is the guardian of the wife. The Qur’an says, ‘Man has authority over women’ (Surah Nisa: 34).
Obedience of the husband is necessary for the wife to establish peace and order in the family. Narrated by Abu Hurairah (R.A.): The Prophet (S.A.W.) was once asked, O Messenger of Allah. Which woman is the best? He said, ‘The woman who makes her husband happy, when he looks at her. One who obeys the husband, when the husband instructs him. One who does not engage in any action concerning her husband’s wealth and herself, which the husband dislikes’ (Nasa’i : 3231).
A woman’s paradise lies in her husband’s satisfaction. On the authority of Umm Salama (RA), Rasulullah (SAW) said, ‘A believing woman who dies leaving her husband satisfied will enter Paradise’ (Tirmidhi: 1161).
Ease of use
Truthful and soft-spoken people are appreciated everywhere. A gentle user wife is a great boon to the family. Two words of smiling lips can forget a thousand sorrows of a husband. A tired husband can have colorful dreams in his heart. After all, that wife will receive many rewards. On the authority of Abdullah Ibn Mugaffal (RA), the Prophet (PBUH) said, ‘Allah is a gentle user, He likes gentle use. And He does not reward the hard user what He gives to the soft user’ (Abu Dawud: 4732).
Good behavior leads people to paradise. Narrated Abu Huraira (RA): Rasulullah (SAW) was told about a woman, “Such a woman fasts during the day and prays all night, but she speaks harshly and hurts her neighbor.” The Prophet (PBUH) said, ‘There is no use, he will go to hell.’ It was said about another woman that she prayed five times. He fasts in the month of Ramadan and he gives what he can and he does not harm anyone. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, He will go to Paradise (Mustadrake Hakeem: 7302).
Why most women hell?
In Islam, the responsibility of supporting women is assigned to men. Men also work hard with blood and sweat for this. However, many women are ungrateful to them. Punctuates words. Charity lags behind charity. That is why women are called hell in the hadith.
On the authority of Abdullah Ibn Omar, the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, O women! Continue to give charity and beseech more. For I have seen that most of the inhabitants of Hell are women. An intelligent woman asked, O Messenger of God! What is the reason for our majority in hell? He said, ‘You curse more and show ungratefulness to your husband (Muslim: 145).
Changing the framework of the house
In Sahih Bukhari, there are detailed accounts of Ibrahim’s (a.s.) banishment of his wife Hajar (a.s.) and infant son Ismail (a.s.) to a deserted desert, the founding of the city of Makkah through the creation of the well of Zamzam, and the marriage of Ismail (a.s.).
The gist of it is that after the marriage of Ishmael (a.s.), Ibrahim (a.s.) came to see them one day. He asked his daughter-in-law about the son. Wife said, he went out in search of livelihood. He then asked about their lifestyle and condition. He said that the world is in dire straits. Panta ran out to bring salt. I’m in a lot of trouble. He said while leaving, your husband will greet me when he comes. And say, he should change the framework of the house. Then when Ismail (a.s.) came home, he got a glimpse of his father’s arrival.
As soon as he asked his wife, he blurted out everything. Salam arrived and announced the change of scenery. Ismail (a.s.) said, He was my respected father. He commanded me by this, that I should separate such an ungrateful wife as you. He immediately divorced her and sent her to her relatives. Seeing good, he married another girl. The day was passing happily. Suddenly one day Ibrahim (A.S.) came to visit. Not finding his son, he asked his daughter-in-law about him. He said politely that he had gone out in search of food. Then Ibrahim (AS) asked, how are you? Then he said, Alhamdulillah. We are very well, prosperous.
Ibrahim (AS) asked, what is your main food? He said, meat. He asked again what is your drink? He said, water. Then Ibrahim (a.s.) prayed, ‘O Allah, bless them with meat and water.’ Rasulullah (s.a.w.) said, if they produced food grains there, Ibrahim (a.s.) used to pray for blessings on that too.
Ibrahim (a.s.) said to him on his way back, when your husband comes, he will greet me and tell him not to change the frame of the house. When Ishmael (a.s.) returned, the second wife told him everything. Salam and said not to change the framework. Then Ishmael (a.s.) said, He is my respected father. And you are the foundation of my house. By this, he made me understand that I should marry a virtuous wife like you (Bukhari: 3125).