Answer: Marriage is a sacred bond. Through this bond, an adult man and woman entered into their married life. He attains nearness to Allah by observing the infallible Sunnah. There is a direct guidance from Allah Ta’ala regarding marriage, “Marry women of your choice.” (Surah Nisa, 4:3). Besides, Rasul SAW. It also has instructions, “O youth! Those among you who are able to marry, let them marry. Because marriage restrains one’s gaze and protects one’s modesty, and one who cannot afford to marry should fast. Because fasting will suppress his sexuality. (Bukhari, Ha. 5066, 1905, Ifa, 4696).
Sunnah Method of Marriage:
1) Dowry: Dowry is a legitimate right and mandatory provision of a woman. Allah Ta’ala says, ‘Make women pay their dowries. If they willingly leave a portion of the dowry, you will enjoy it comfortably’ (Surah Nisa, verse 04). And the main condition of marriage is to pay the dowry (Muttafaq Alaih, Mishkat Ha. 3143). But its amount is not determined by Shari’at. Rather, the smaller the quantity, the better. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The best dowry is that which is easily repaid” (Bayhaqvi, Sahihul Jame’ H.3279).
2) Izab-Kabul: The direct consent of the bride and groom is indisputable in marriage. Consent of both is desirable. Under no circumstances should a boy or girl be forced into marriage without their consent. Allah says, ‘O believers! It is not lawful for you that you inherit women by force’ (Surah Nisa, verse 19).
Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal (RA) said that the Sunnah method of marriage is to first obtain Ijn or permission from the bride. At least two witnesses must be present. Then the groom will loudly say ‘Qabul’ or ‘I accept’ or an agreeable ‘Alhamdulillah’. It is better to say this three times (Bukhari, Hadith: 95).
3) Khutba: The Sunnah method of teaching marriage is that first the marriage khutba should be recited (Mughni 7/62). Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal (RA) used to leave the wedding ceremony if the khutba was not recited before (Abun Naja, al-Iqbna’ 3/162; Bahuti, Kashshaful Qana’ 5/21).
4) Walima: Performing Walima is an important Sunnah. Rasulullah (SAW) himself performed Walima and asked the Companions to do it. The day after the Prophet (PBUH) married Zainab bint Jahash (RA) he performed Walima. (Bukhari, Ha. 5170). Hazrat Anas Ibn Malek (R.A.) said, Rasulullah (S.A.W.) performed Walima as much as he did for any of his other wives after marrying Zainab (R.A.). (Bukhari: 5168; Muslim: 2569).
Prohibited acts in marriage:
1) Extravagance: Extravagance or extravagance is inappropriate in marriage. Because Allah has forbidden not to waste. (Surah Araf, verse: 31, Bani Israel, verse: 26). Rasul He also said, ‘The marriage is more blessed than the marriage that is simple and inexpensive’ (Ibn Hibban, Sahihul Jame’ H. 3300).
2) Dowry: Dowry is a hated social evil. Due to dowry there is conflict in married life. Dowry is completely forbidden in Islam. (Ahsanul Fatawa, Volume: 5, Page: 13).
3) Meeting brides by chance: Islam does not approve of meeting brides by chance in accordance with the formalities prevailing in our society. Rather, Islam forbids such small-minded acts and acts that hurt women’s honor. (Imdadul Fatawa, Volume: 4, Page: 200).
4) Playing obscene songs, Mehndi ceremony between men and women etc.:
Playing musical instruments at weddings, arranging dance-singing sessions, mehndi ceremony with the joint participation of men and women in a foreign style, etc. are completely haram and prohibited activities. (Surah An’am, verse: 70).
Actually, there is no fixed place for marriage. It is permissible to conduct the marriage at any place convenient for the parents of the bride and groom. It is permissible to marry even while traveling. Prophet Chafiar on the way back from the battle of Khaybar. Married to him (Bukhari ha. 4211).
Answered by : Sana Ullah Muhammad Kausar,
Teacher and researcher.